When succumbing under society’s pressure you decide to elope with a man (as a woman of course) and have 2.5 children to have “the perfection” in your home. To proudly admit you have raised these 2.5 children to become doctors and engineers, and still balance the household, your tasks as a wife (always be open to try EVERYTHING to keep him happy)
Not that we are exposed since childhood that this is the correct course of your life, but Disney, sure does the trick for you parents that subtly want to engrave this information in your kids **wink , wink **
Prepare your whole life to find this perfect man and marry him, once you’re married endure the marriage, hold on and support ANYTHING that married life brings. A little lady always looks the other way and as Tammy Wynette would say: “Stand by your Man” and any action done by him may be forgiven…
It is easy to stare and point our finger to other societies, such as the Hindu or the Arab ones that still practice fixed marriages. These people are raised in strict religious beliefs where fear is the dominant catalysts for everything they do within it (fear of god, hell, devil, etc)
So it comes natural for the woman to prepare her life since early childhood just to become a sort of modern day “sex slave” for her chosen male partner. The man on the other hand is chosen based on the family’s wealth, influences and religious beliefs as well. On the long run these types of marriages tend to last much longer than non fixed marriages. This may be because of the embedded core family values and beliefs or simple fear of the family, society, god (whichever one), etc. and the divorce rate is lower too.
In our society (or so we like to think) we do not impose a male partner on our female girls… or do we? What are the characteristics our parents “wish” our partner had?
· In terms of spirituality, they “should” be of our family’s same religion, practices and beliefs
· He “should” come from a wealthy family, or he himself “should” have money : Doctor, Lawyer, Engineer , etc
· He “should” not have children… Ouch! , you know this is true when a potential mate has children EVERYONE has to comment about it and most will try to persuade you to desist! (The list of reasons is endless)
These are some of the “shoulds” our families slightly and silently “impose” on us. And for some families it is more than a “should” a “must”. As you see, not very different from other societies not as “evolved” as ours or “open minded” as to allow “freewill” of the young ones.
After all is done and we are finally in our sweet little home, with our sweet, strong, wealthy and religious man, it is our responsibility to keep him there, keep him happy and satisfied in every sense of the word (you know what I’m talking ‘bout). Learn to look the other way when things look suspicious, cell phone is off or vibrating and hidden, strange
perfumes and/or stains on his clothing, comes later and later in the evening. It is our “choice” to wait with arms wide open our so wonderful, let me spread some roses on your way, fabulous husband. Take his shoes off, rub his feet and have dinner ready and warm for him, for he comes with much more appetite than usual. Until finally you go to bed with him, if he’s up and running and still smelly from other ventures, it is your responsibility to simply open up… (No pun intended) and welcome him in.
The reasons one as a woman must stand by our man are almost exactly the same ones as those reasons other societies we point our finger on use as excuse. Meaning, society, religion, the bible, the gods, our parents, our neighbors, our children, the priest, our pastor, our pets, anybody becomes then our master which we have to please. Using about anything as an excuse on the “correct” reasons not to leave an unfaithful, disrespectful and unloving relationship, women in our society are pleasing, tolerant and unhappy
What difference is there with the Arab or Hindu women?
Let us then live happy, in our little pink bubbles filled with plastic, gold and diamonds, cooking for our adored, imposed husband, bear 2.5 children (I have no idea what the .5 mean, maybe half a kid or something), be excellent cooks, house makers, in laws, mothers, neighbors, pet owners, everything until the day we finally die. This of course may be accelerated by all the resentment, anger, unhappiness that we, I mean, “society” has expected of us that has finally wreaked havoc in our bodies.
In the end, the only person we must make happy, we must oblige to is ourselves, there was nobody there with you when you were born (unless of course you’re a twin, and well, different subject all together) and nobody will die with you (dismiss mass murders and so) and most importantly, nobody knows how you feel inside but yourself.
“Joy and peace are not but idle dreams. They are your right, because of what you are.”-A Course in Miracles